Give Her to God: A Divine Guide for Men
A sacred journey for men called to love, heal, and uplift the women of the world with purpose and divine partnership.
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A Love That's Not Possessive, But Purposeful
There comes a moment when a man realizes—true love doesn't mean ownership. It means stewardship, prayer, and purpose. Whether you're single, dating, or married, this book is for the men who understand that the woman they love is not a possession—but a precious soul designed for greatness.
This is not just about romance. This is about divine partnership. This is about surrendering control and letting God take the lead—because when you give her to God, you give her the best of you.
The Calling of a Kingdom Man
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What is a Kingdom Man?
A Kingdom Man doesn't just live by instinct—he lives by intention. His words create. His presence heals. His love builds. He carries divine authority not to dominate, but to lead with love.
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Your Sacred Role
You were created to be a protector, intercessor, and spiritual leader. You carry healing energy that can transform spaces and hearts when aligned with God's purpose.
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Divine Masculine Love
You were designed to cover her, not control her. To protect her, not possess her. To pray for her, not pressure her. Your love, when aligned with divine purpose, becomes a force for healing.
To be a Kingdom Man means your calling isn't just about one woman. It's about becoming the man worthy of the woman God has destined for you—or becoming the answer to your own prayers for your wife.
She's Not Yours—She's God's First
Before she's your girl, your wife, your queen—she is God's daughter. She belongs to Him first. Her story, her struggles, her spirit—it's all wrapped in a divine design that you may not always understand. But here's what you must always remember: you were never meant to own her. You were sent to honor her.
Too many men try to mold a woman into their image instead of asking God to reveal His image in her. The moment you try to control her journey, you've already stepped out of line. Because a true Kingdom Man doesn't possess—he protects. He doesn't restrict—he releases.

"You don't need to force it when God is forming it. Let her go, in love. And watch what God grows in her... and in you."
When You Know She's God's First:
  • You pray more than you pressure
  • You honor her process, even if it's painful to watch
  • You trust God's voice above your emotions
  • You become an intercessor in the gap between her past pain and future promise
Praying for Her Without Pushing Her
Prayer is the highest form of love a man can give. It's the proof that he trusts God more than he trusts his own efforts. When you pray for her, you're not trying to change her—you're inviting God to heal, guide, and elevate her.
Prayer vs. Pressure
Prayer becomes manipulation when it comes with expectations, timelines, or control. True prayer surrenders outcomes to God.
Heart Protection
Pray for her heart to be softened and protected from wounds that could harden her spirit.
Mental Peace
Pray for her mind to be renewed with peace that surpasses understanding in all circumstances.
Divine Purpose
Pray for her purpose to be fully revealed and for courage to walk in it, even when it's challenging.
Even if she never knows you're praying, your prayers still move Heaven. Kingdom men don't just pray for what they want—they pray for what God wants, and they learn to want that too.
The Woman is the Reflection of the Man's Energy
The energy you carry as a man doesn't just affect your path—it influences hers too. Whether you realize it or not, the way you think, speak, love, and lead creates an atmosphere she will either bloom in or break in.
A woman often mirrors the energy she's surrounded by. If you bring peace, she reflects calm. If you bring chaos, she reflects confusion. If you carry purpose, she will often find her own.
What Energy Are You Carrying?
  • Peace or pressure?
  • Faith or fear?
  • Love or control?
  • Freedom or expectation?
Creating Safe Space
A healed man can help usher in healing in her life—not because he "fixes" her, but because he holds space where she can safely become who she truly is.
Be the reason she glows—not because she's trying to impress you, but because she feels free to be herself around you.
Helping Her Rise to Her Royal Position
Every woman is a queen by design, but many forget their crown because of past wounds, toxic relationships, or spiritual battles. A Kingdom Man doesn't just remind her of her beauty—he reminds her of her royalty.
To help her rise, you must first rise yourself. A queen can only trust a king who leads with integrity, clarity, and divine love. Your growth, discipline, and faith create the environment where her identity can flourish.
Speak Life
Your words are seeds. Speak affirmations, scripture, and truth into her destiny. Call out the greatness in her even when she can't see it.
Celebrate Her Wins
Even the small ones. Show her that her growth, her healing, and her dreams matter to you and to God.
Cover Her in Prayer
Let your prayers lift her confidence, protect her from spiritual warfare, and position her for divine alignment.
When a woman is loved well, she doesn't just smile—she soars. She becomes more of who she was created to be. And as she rises, so does your legacy.
When She Walks Away
Not every love story ends the way we hoped. Sometimes, even after all your prayers, all your patience, all your purpose-driven pursuit—she walks away. It hurts. It confuses. It shakes you to your core.
A Kingdom Man must learn this sacred truth: her rejection is not your destruction—it's divine redirection.
Release, Don't Chase
When she walks away, don't pursue out of desperation. Release her with blessing and dignity, trusting God's greater plan.
Reflect, Don't Resent
Use this season to reflect on what God might be teaching you, rather than building resentment toward her or yourself.
Recalibrate, Don't Retreat
Her departure may be the very thing that pushes you deeper into your purpose, your healing, and your identity in God.
Even when she walks away... you keep walking with God. Your story isn't over—it's just taking a divine detour.
If She's the One—God Will Bring Her Back
Love that is ordained by God doesn't die—it may be delayed, it may be tested, but it never dies. If she truly belongs in your destiny, no detour can keep her from returning. Not time. Not distance. Not even a season of silence.
God is the author of reconciliation. And when two hearts are aligned with Him, He knows how to bring them back together in His timing, not yours.
"If she's the one—God will bring her back. And when He does, it'll be more than a reunion—it'll be a rebirth."
If She's the One:
  • You won't have to force it
  • You won't have to beg for it
  • You won't have to compete for her attention
Heal
Don't just wait for her. Grow into the man God needs you to be through inner healing and spiritual growth.
Work
Keep building what God told you to build. Stay faithful to your purpose and calling while you wait.
Trust
Believe that if she's yours, nothing can stop God's plan. His timing is perfect, even when it doesn't match yours.
For Married Men—Renewing Your Covenant
Marriage is not a contract—it's a covenant. And like any divine covenant, it must be honored, protected, and—at times—renewed.
If you are a married man, understand: your role is more than a provider, more than a protector—you are a priest in your home. You are the spiritual leader, the covering, the living example of Christ's love for the church.
Return to the Source
Before you try to fix your marriage, fix your gaze on God. A renewed marriage starts with a renewed man of God.
Repent Where Needed
Own your mistakes. Apologize for what you've overlooked. Humility heals more than any sermon.
Pursue Her Again
She's still your bride. Date her again. Compliment her again. Pray with her again. Show her your love isn't stagnant—it's steadfast.
Protect the Atmosphere
Be mindful of what you allow in your home. Your home is a sanctuary—treat it like one.
Remember: the strength of your marriage doesn't come from the absence of struggle, but from the presence of sacrifice. You're not just married. You're chosen to love like Christ.
Your Mission is Bigger Than One Relationship
As powerful as love is—as sacred and transformative as romantic connection can be—your life's mission is bigger than one relationship.
Before God gave you her, He gave you purpose. Before He called you to love a woman, He called you to build the Kingdom.
A Kingdom Man doesn't lose himself in pursuit of love. He finds himself in obedience to the assignment God gave him before the foundation of the world.
Your Divine Calling:
  • Heal generations
  • Build legacies
  • Shift atmospheres
  • Set captives free
  • Create works that glorify God
Your relationship is meant to enhance your mission—not become the mission. Your identity is not "her man." Your identity is His son.
When you stand before God, He won't ask, "Did you get the girl?" He'll ask, "Did you finish the work I gave you to do?" Stay focused. Stay faithful. The world needs what you carry.
Give Her to God—And Keep Becoming
At some point, every man with a heart for healing and love will face a divine test: Can you release what you love most—and still keep becoming?
Giving her to God doesn't mean giving up on love. It means trusting God with your love life while staying faithful to your life's purpose. Because your identity was never rooted in her response. Your worth was never tied to her presence.
Become a Man of Prayer
Deepen your connection with God through consistent, authentic prayer that transforms your heart first.
Become a Man of Wisdom
Seek God's wisdom above your own understanding, especially in relationships and life decisions.
Become a Man of Impact
Focus on blessing others and building God's Kingdom, regardless of your relationship status.
Whether she comes back or not—you win when you stay in alignment with who God called you to be. Your destiny didn't need permission. It just needed your surrender.
Daily Devotional Prayers for Her Heart
These prayers are powerful tools to lift her up spiritually without placing pressure on her. Pray them consistently, believing that God hears and answers.
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Prayer for Peace
Lord, calm her anxious heart and fill her with Your peace that surpasses understanding. Let her rest in Your love, no matter what storms she faces.
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Prayer for Healing
Father, heal every wound she carries—seen and unseen. Restore her soul, mend her broken places, and renew her strength each day.
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Prayer for Joy
God, fill her with joy that is rooted in You, a joy that radiates even in hard times. Let her smile be a testimony of Your goodness.
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Prayer for Courage
Lord, when fear tries to bind her, grant her courage to stand firm, knowing You are with her always.
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Prayer for Wisdom
Father, guide her thoughts and decisions with divine wisdom. Help her to discern Your voice clearly above all others.
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Prayer for Love
God, surround her with unconditional love—from You, from others, and through the people You bring into her life.
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Prayer for Rest
Lord, grant her rest for her mind, body, and spirit. Renew her energy daily so she can rise stronger.
Daily Devotional Prayers for Her Destiny
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Prayer for Purpose
Father, reveal to her the unique purpose You have placed within her. Help her walk confidently in her calling, recognizing the divine design in her gifts and passions.
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Prayer for Provision
God, provide for her needs abundantly so she can focus on fulfilling her destiny without lack or fear. Open heavenly storehouses of blessing on her path.
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Prayer for Favor
Lord, open doors of favor and divine opportunities in her life. Let her path be clear and prosperous, with favor from both God and people.
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Prayer for Strength
Father, empower her with supernatural strength to overcome every obstacle standing in the way of her destiny. When she feels weak, be her strength.
Prayer for Influence
God, make her a light and a leader in her sphere of influence, inspiring others to walk in truth and love. Let her words and actions draw others to Your kingdom.
Prayer for Clarity
Lord, clear away confusion and distraction from her mind. Help her focus fully on the dreams You've placed in her heart and the steps to achieve them.
Prayer for Fulfillment
Father, bring her fulfillment and satisfaction in all she does, so her life brings glory to Your name and joy to her heart as she walks in purpose.
Daily Devotional Prayers for You as Her Protector
These prayers focus on your spiritual growth as you learn to cover her in prayer and love. They recognize that to protect her well, you must first be grounded in your identity in Christ.
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Prayer for Strength
Lord, strengthen me to be the protector she needs—strong, steady, and unwavering in love. Help me stand firm against anything that would harm her physically, emotionally, or spiritually.
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Prayer for Wisdom
Father, grant me wisdom to lead with humility, patience, and discernment in every decision. Let me see situations through Your eyes, not merely my own understanding.
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Prayer for Humility
God, keep my heart humble and teachable, so I may serve her well and honor Your will. Remove pride that blinds me to my weaknesses and prevents me from growing.
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Prayer for Faith
Lord, increase my faith to trust Your timing and purpose in our lives, even when I cannot see the full picture. Let me walk by faith and not by sight.
Prayer for Patience
Father, cultivate patience in me, especially when waiting on breakthroughs and healing. Help me trust Your perfect timing in all things.
Prayer for Protection
God, teach me how to shield her from harm—physical, emotional, and spiritual. Guard her heart as I guard mine, with vigilance and wisdom.
Prayer for Love
Lord, fill me with Your perfect love that casts out fear, so I can love her fully and freely, without conditions or expectations.
Prayer of Release
"Father, I thank You for the love You placed in my heart. I thank You for the desire to love her purely, to see her healed, to walk with her in purpose. But now, I surrender that desire back to You.
I release her to Your perfect plan. I release my expectations, my timeline, my questions. I trust that what You have for me will not pass me by.
Help me continue to grow, to lead, to love, and to heal. Make me more like Jesus in my thoughts, in my actions, and in my relationships.
And whether she returns or not, let my life reflect obedience, purpose, and Kingdom legacy. In Jesus' name, Amen."
Journaling Prompts for Continued Growth
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What areas of my life still need healing before I can love fully?
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What does becoming God's man look like in this season?
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How can I protect my peace and purpose while trusting God with my love story?
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What would I say to the woman I love, from a place of release?
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What would I say to myself five years from now?
A Letter From Your Future Self
Dear Me,
You made it. You kept going. You didn't let heartbreak harden you or rejection ruin you. You turned your pain into power, your confusion into clarity, and your delay into development.
You trusted God—really trusted Him. And look at you now: walking in purpose, blessing lives, whole in ways you didn't even know you needed.
And guess what? Whether she came back or someone new entered your life—you're ready now. Because you became the man you were always meant to be.
Keep praying. Keep building. Keep shining.
Your destiny didn't need permission. It just needed your surrender.
With love and faith,
—Your Future Self

The journey of giving her to God isn't about losing what you love—it's about finding who you were always meant to be, with or without her by your side.
The End of the Chapter. The Beginning of a New Man.
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Trust
Complete faith in God's plan
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Release
Surrendering control and expectations
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Growth
Continual development in character and spirit
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Purpose
Walking firmly in your divine calling and mission
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Legacy
Building something that will outlast you through Kingdom impact
This is not the end. This is just the beginning of your journey as a Kingdom Man—one who loves like Christ, leads with wisdom, and lives with purpose. As you give her to God, you find yourself walking into the fullness of who you were created to be.